Why My 11 Inspirational Quotes about Children are Better Than Yours

My quotes have extended commentary that will motivate you to become a better parent and citizen in society. More than just making you feel good (or guilty), I will give you insight into the world of children and what they need to thrive. Including:

  • Children and Marriage
  • Children and their Potential
  • Children and Society

Children and Marriage

1. Children make your life important. Erma Bombeck

When you first get married, life seems like it’s all fun and games. If you can just get along with one another, marriage is wonderful. But when you have children, life gets serious. Children need a lot of attention, a lot of time, and these days, a lot of money. Suddenly you have to be a grown-up. Suddenly you have to take care of someone who is completely dependent on you. This is an awesome responsibility. This is what makes you important. Forget about politics, sports and business, being a parent is truly one of the most important things you can ever do.

2. The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. Theodore Hesburgh

Children need stability which includes a stable home life, surrounded by stable relationships. And in a marriage what contributes a lot to stability is a father who loves and sacrifices not only for the children but for the wife. When the father respects and Trusts his wife, the children will grow up loving and respecting their mother. But when the father disrespects, distrusts, or dishonors his own wife, then the children will grow up feeling that way about their mother. (The same is true that mothers should love their husbands.) Here is a note for divorced parents: don’t use your children as weapons to hurt your ex-spouse. Don’t force your kids to choose sides. At least in front of your children, treat your ex with civility and honor. Remember that a marriage may be dissolved, but you can’t dissolve a child’s bond with a parent without breaking the child, too.

3. Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring, and integrity, they think of you. H. Jackson Brown, Jr

When I was young, I used to like TV shows where the father was silly and everybody laughed at him. He was kind of a joke and helped make those sitcoms very funny. But after I became a father, I began to see how deadly poisonous those of images of inept fathers are. Children need to see both mothers and fathers who are worthy of respect, who are worthy of emulation. As I said before, parenthood is a high responsibility. Abruptly, your life is being copied into other young minds. You can be the hero that they need, the wise one, the compassionate one, the just one that they seek to emulate. How important is that!

4. Let us sacrifice our today so that our children can have a better tomorrow. A. P. J. Abdul Kalam

We all know that children can’t take care of themselves. They’re not even a legal adult until 18 and most people today who are 18 are still pretty immature. That’s why it is so essential for the parents to sacrifice their time, their money, and their desires in order to bring up their children in the best way possible. The parents who are willing to sacrifice today are the most likely to bring up the most successful children in the future. And these blessed children are going to be the ones who are most likely to grow up thankful and grateful for all the sacrifices that have been done for them. Parenthood forces you to strategically think about the future and how the smallest of actions today will shape our children’s distant future.

5. Let parents bequeath to their children not riches, but the spirit of reverence. Plato

Plato lived in a culture where there were many gods and reverence to the gods was an essential part of the Greek culture. America is now a post-Christian culture and reverence for the God of the Bible is becoming more and more rare. But everybody Reveres something, whether it’s money, fame, sex, success, online Facebook likes, or whatever. Your children will see what you revere, they will even by osmosis absorb whatever it is you have reverence for. And your children will learn to worship the same things that you worship or conversely they will see that what you Revere is a false idol and they will turn against it and try to Revere the opposite. Life is funny like that. Again, this is a great responsibility we are shaping the Next Generation, so make sure that you will be proud to see your children give their lives to whatever you give your life.

Children and their Potential

6. It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men. Frederick Douglass

This is a very sobering concept: we need strong people; strong men and strong women, and yet nobody is born strong. We are born weak, we are born foolish, every one of us. We only become strong through the Blood Sweat and Tears of our parents, our teachers, and our community. If the family is broken, if the community is broken, then the children will grow up broken. Later, its possible but is oh so hard to fix people with grown-up broken. Let me repeat the concept: broken homes create broken children and broken communities create broke adults. Don’t expect the youth to get their act together if the rest of us don’t have our act together.

7. Children are not things to be molded but are people to be unfolded. Jess Lair

Although it might seem so, children are not a blank slate. Every child is born with a particular and unique personality. While many parents try to mold and shape their children based on the parent’s ideals. What they often find is that their own children, their own flesh and blood are not Mini-Me’s, they cannot successfully copy the ideals of the parents. As children grow up, some are naturally athletic, some are naturally good at academics, and some are very social. (Sadly some grow up with very limited potential: they’re going to be stupid, fat and unpopular and often no amount of Tutors or parental pressure is going to change this basic scenario.) The best thing a parent can do is identify their child’s unique strengths and weaknesses and help that child be the best that that child can be according to the template that they are born with. But if the parent can’t accept what the child is naturally created to become the whole family is in for a world of conflict. Children are not endlessly perfectible robots, so parents should just do their best and accept the rest as an adventure.

8. Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them. James Baldwin

As a teacher, I understand that it’s incredibly difficult to get kids to pay attention. They often don’t even know what they should pay attention to and so many a teacher has grown quite exasperated just trying to tell the kids, “This is important! Pay attention to this!” But somehow these same kids understand that actions are more important than words. They want to grow up, they want to understand how the Adult World works, but they can’t figure it out on their own. So they watch older kids and adults as they look for clues for how to behave and how to fit into the world. They even watch the worst examples in the world in popular media to learn who to live – if you let them. Those little spies are watching and trying out every move you make, every word you say. It kind of keeps you honest, doesn’t it?

9. Remember that children, marriages, and flower gardens reflect the kind of care they get. H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

There are a plethora of theories about how to raise children. But in the end, no Theory can tell you what to do. As a parent, you’re going to make mistakes. You can’t avoid it. Hopefully, you can avoid repeating the same mistakes over and over, but you’re just going to make new mistakes. It’s inevitable. But children are very resilient and so you can overcome almost any mistake as long as you show your care to your children, as long as you hug them, hold them, affirm them, and even discipline them when they need it. It’s all about showing your concern that is the most important element in any successful family. On the other hand, don’t give so much to your children that you neglect your marriage. An unhappy/broken marriage does not benefit your kids.

Children and Society

10. I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character. Martin Luther King Jr.

Member of the Semper Fi Society receive a gift from the children at Kaminakajima preschool in Kamaishi-shi, Japan, Oct. 25, 2013 as thanks for their donations. 200 toys were delivered this year to children in Kamaishi. (U.S. Air Force photo by Airman 1st Class Meagan Schutter/Released)

I’m going to take a pass on whether King’s dream has come true or not. Instead, I want to generalize his quote. We all have a dream of raising up our children in a better world, and many of us work tirelessly to achieve that vision. Naturally, we have a dream that our lives can make a difference in this world today and in our children’s future. Sadly Martin Luther King Jr. did not live to see the world that his daughters would grow up into. We can only imagine if he would be delighted or dissatisfied with the way the world has become. His time is long passed and now it is our time. Remember that your actions today are going to shape the world that your children inherit. Will they praise us or will they curse us for the world that we give them?

11. Children make your life important. Erma Bombeck

We began the post with this quote and now we end with it. The truth is that children make everyone in the world more important. As I record this tonight, there are people in Thailand attempting to rescue a group of young boys trapped in a cave that’s been flooded. Of course, all these Rescuers lives were important before this ever happened but now there is a new urgency, a new importance to every Naval diver, every rescuer, every even every news person who covers the issue there is a great sense of the importance of saving these children. One of The Rescuers has already died. He gave up his own life to rescue those children. This is sad, but he decided to risk his life for them.

If Superman and Wonder Woman were real, they would be important, but they wouldn’t need us. We would be merely irrelevant extras as they gallivant about the stage. We could just sit back and watch them save the day on the telly. But of course, superheroes are not real. Conversely, children are not only real, they are important and they need us. We see heroic examples repeated all across the world, daily. When a child is in danger, when a child is in need, adults rise out of their tired, trivial routines and respond with great urgency to do whatever they can to take care of those children. Essentially, to a child, every adult is Superman or Wonder Woman. Our precious children make us more important than we could ever ask for or imagine.

 

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2 Responses

  1. Morgan says:

    Wow, your post inspired me to be a better mom, wife, and person! I love #9! It is so true that in marriage and parenthood, you get back what you give. When you put 100% effort into being the best spouse and parent you can possibly be, your love and family will truly flourish. I have never had much of a green thumb, but I am going to focus my efforts on my family so that we can live happy and healthy.

    • Peter Barban says:

      Thanks! I’m sure you will be a successful gardener of your own life and love because you are fully committed to it. The price of children is quite high in terms of money, time and responsibility, but they will surely repay you 10,000 time back in love.

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